I am going in with a good attitude.

Give thanks, Folks-

This is it for some of us. We are entering the fire this week. We will come out stronger.

I’m going to keep this short. If we can (I know I’m not talking to all of you, but those who I am talking to know who they are) let's try to keep our shit together this Thanksgiving. It’s been a couple of years since I’ve been with family for this clusterfuck but I am going in with a good attitude. I going to be patient and openhearted and I’m going to try to appreciate my family. I am going to have personal boundaries, especially while I’m cooking, and I hope everyone respects that. Mom, you know who you are. She reads these.

It’s weird as we all get older that if you really realize it and appreciate it there’s no reason family stuff has to be a nightmare. I know we all have resentments and trauma but some of that is on us to fix apparently. Most of the time the perpetrators (and I’m using that term brashly and comedically ) are clueless as to their part in it anyway. Obviously there are some traumas worse than others and I am not in any way trying to trivialize them, but as time goes on and I learn more abut myself, my particular set of traumas are getting more trivial to me which is spectacular. What am I going to do when I’m free of them? When you press the culprits for answers after a certain point they’ll comply and agree just because you’ve become so consistent in annoying them and that is never satisfying. More often than not, they think they did the best they could. NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Whoops, see. Still a little mad. Not quite free.

Nope, this year I’m going to appreciate that I am alive and those others in my family that will be there are alive and this being alive business isn’t that long a run at its best. So, I guess what I am saying is give thanks but also try to forgive. Damn, I can’t believe I’m writing this stuff. Mom, don’t use this email against me when I lose my shit at some point during the week. I will try to limit it to one tantrum.

Today I talk to the lovely, amazing and funny Julia Sweeney about all of it and I mean all of it. On Thursday the too-good-looking-to-be-as-cool-as-he-is Rhett Miller talks about life and music and plays a bit.


Boomer lives!