Relationships of any kind can be difficult.

Oh, man, People -

First off, LA folks or people visiting LA, I will be doing another Trepany House residency for several Tuesdays in September and October. September 16th, 23rd, and 30th and October 14th and 21st. These are under the radar shows that I use as a way to workshop new material. They’re always fun and weird and I always use my favorite younger comics to do some time to open the show. They are reasonably priced as well and all the money goes to benefit the theater. The links for tickets are on the left here on the email.

It’s always amazing. Every time I think that Deaf Black Cat has finally been taken by the wild and met a violent and/or lonely animal end he shows up. He’s looking good, too. It bothers me that he refuses to fully acknowledge that I am important in his life but it’s always good to see him. It had been a few weeks this time. I guess it’s hard to know the life of a wild cat. I imagine he has other benefactors in the neighborhood. Other people that have the same distant but genuine relationship with him but I don’t know. Maybe I should reach out and start some kind of cat co-dependency group in my neighborhood for people that enable ferals in a good way but have a hard time with the emotions around the one-sided nature of the relationship.

Relationships of any kind can be difficult. I recently had to end one. I have been keeping my private life private, for a change, so I can have one. I’m sorry to cut you folks out of the loop but I was finding that it put an added strain on the situation when I invite a few hundred thousand people into the room. I was seeing someone in another state and it just became too hard. It started to seem unfair to both of us. The distance, for me, was good initially. You can't just steamroll someone into complete enmeshment which annihilates any possibility of true intimacy. Sadly, that was also the thing that ended up making it so difficult to maintain. Longing is frustrating and commitment is terrifying to me at this time in my life. I really don’t know how to deal with making a practical decision when there is so much emotion involved. I’m beginning to understand why people stay in things that may not be great or just decide to be alone. The pain of beginning and ending things is awful and wears the heart down. I’m becoming cynical and I’m just going to pull back and try to figure out what I really want. It’s not bad to be alone as long as you’re not lonely---right? I don’t know. I’ll ask my cats. I’ll ask Deaf Black Cat when he comes back around, if he comes back around. Longing.

On Monday I talk to Mac McCaughan from the band Superchunk about music and about creating Merge Records, one the best and longest surviving indy labels out there. Alsoon Monday I talk about to Carol Leifer a life in comedy and her new book, ‘How to Succeed in Business Without Really Crying.' On Thursday I talk to Jay Bakker about what it was like to grow up with Tammy Faye and Jim Bakker and the struggle he has faced in surviving that and creating his own ministry.


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